Why me?
This photo was taken of me at a day retreat at Trigonos in the Nantlle Valley one year after my cancer surgery, 18 months after my chemotherapy and 6 months after my radiotherapy. I was running the retreat with my friend Lisa Russell.
In January 2023 I was diagnosed with HER 2+ breast cancer (non hormonal) which came after a wave of grief from losing both parents and a number of other family members. I was told it was an aggressive form of cancer and I needed to go into treatment straight away.
It is never easy that moment when you are told “you have cancer” and after what I had just been through It felt cruel that I was now being given this challenge. I have always been interested in supporting myself and my family naturally, but in this case I soon realised I didn’t have the knowledge or expertise to go it alone. What I did do is look to what is known as ‘Integrative Oncology’ and how to support my body with alternative and supportive approaches alongside the more traditional treatment.
I had two different chemotherapy agents alongside the drug Phesgo which was really hard on my body. But I changed my already good nutrition to a more cancer specific diet, used my mindfulness and meditation as much as possible and when movement was able I would gently move my body on my yoga mat. I used positive affirmations (especially when receiving the chemo), listened to all sorts of podcasts and audiobooks and most of all listened to my body and what it needed.
When I had my surgery for my breast lumpectomy and some lymph from under my arm, I was told I had a ‘complete response’ they had removed the active cancer.
I now wanted two things, to get my body and mind back as I felt I had lost both and to stop the cancer ever wanting to live in my body again.
What are some of the things I did?…..
I started moving my body more than I had done in the past, slowly to begin with - I tried Nordic walking to get my lymphatic system working and built up to intermittent walk/jog.
I went to sound baths and restorative yoga classes and Kirtan chanting and some disco’s and dancing.
I ate only non processed whole Organic foods and no sugar/low carb for a while.
I gave up working and retired early to concentrate on my wellbeing.
I started to travel more both in the UK and abroad and went to my first festival.
I wanted to be in this life and to make the most of it, I had a different outlook on life than the one I had before cancer.
I started to look not only well, but better than I had done in years.
And along all of this I finished my yoga qualification, took part in a therapeutic restorative teacher training and then finally decided to do some training for yoga and mindfulness for cancer. This not only helped me immensely, but gave me the opportunity to be able to work with people at any stage of their process and share some of the things I have learnt alongside providing a safe supporting space for them to feel seen.
Most importantly, I have been through my own process and have some understanding of the challenges.
I have talked about a lot of the physical things I did to support my recovery and staying well, but I need to mention the emotional work that I needed to do too.
Trauma can stay in the body for years and a life time, we all experience some kind of trauma in our lifetime, a cancer diagnosis and treatment being traumatic in its nature too.
So for 2025 I wanted to travel more and give myself the time and space to really be with my past experiences and work in supporting my body in its innate healing process.
I am unravelling the years away and doing some restorative yoga workshops in the process. I have a new touring caravan that is down the Llyn Peninsula in North Wales where I lived for 16 years. During this time I am finding the real me again, the one I lost so many years ago, and life feels more joyful again.
This is an important part of my own journey to be able to give the support I want to in the future to others working with and beyond a cancer diagnosis.
This is me at Aphrodite baths in Cyprus in March 2025, celebrating nearly 2 years since my Chemotherapy ended. .
Offerings…….
